Tips for Telling Your Crush You Like Them
Telling someone how you feel can seem like the most daunting task – but it doesn’t have to be. We’ve compiled our top ten tips around how to go about it.
Drop Hints: If you have the opportunity, drop hints about how you feel before coming clean. It can help diffuse any associated pressure and motivate your crush to consider a relationship with you. Try making eye contact as you pass by, saying hi, joking around, texting them something sweet, etc.
Close Friends Only: It can be hard to do this alone. If you feel like you need to get an outside perspective, go ahead and ask your closest friends what they think. They know you well and will have beneficial insight. But don’t ask too many people. It can become hard to keep track of who knows what, and may even result in your crush finding out before you’ve had the chance to tell them.
Test the ‘Do Nothing’ Scenario: If you’re having trouble making the first move, try testing the “do nothing” scenario. Consider the following to determine if you should take the next step: It’s a year later, he/she moved away and never knew how you felt. Does the missed opportunity upset you? If so, you are likely already too invested not to find out what could be. Doing nothing is harder in the long-run than doing something.
Set a Deadline: Whether it be next week or next month, get a calendar, pick a day to tell him/her and mark it down in permanent ink. This will hold you accountable and prevents an unnecessarily prolonged situation which almost always leads to overthinking.
You Can Do It Through Text: There is a stigma in the dating world that texting is insensitive. However, declaring your feelings via text can remove any immediate shock from the situation, making it easier for the recipient to provide a meaningful response. There is no single right way to go about telling someone how you feel and nothing should be ruled out – think about what will make you the most comfortable.
Be Clear: You should not prepare a script, but you do need to know the main points you want to get across. You have one shot to leave a positive impression – don’t leave anything unsaid!
Smile: Whether you make the move online or offline, smiling can trick your brain into lowering your heart rate, reducing stress and boosting your mood. This will bring a sense of calm to the situation and can help you think more clearly. If you don’t believe me, just try it – right now!
Make It Easy for Them: Be mindful that the person you are telling has an obligation to their own feelings. Set up the conversation in a way where he or she knows they have the choice to do what’s right for them as well. Consider simply informing them of your feelings without requiring anything on their end.
Scale the Situation: It can feel like life or death when offering up your feelings to someone, but it’s not. Whether or not your crush reciprocates, life will go on how it’s meant to. Try to see the big picture and scale the problem down to actual size.
Fake It Till You Make It: No one is born an expert at this. If you you’re anxious, just know that is it hard for every single person at some point in life to be vulnerable. Even the most seasoned daters have to brace themselves for the potential of rejection. Go into this experience with as much confidence as you can, and the rest will fall into place.
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